The Style Commandments
Thee Sartorial Principles to Live By
Rules. You either love them, hate them, or—if you’re anything like me—gleefully dance in the gray area. Sure, rules bring structure, but let’s be honest, the thrill of bending (or outright breaking) them is half the fun. And fashion? Oh, fashion thrives on that delicious tension.
Listen, I’m not here to blindly bow to the Gospel of “Fashion Rules” dictated by... who, exactly? Tradition? Some outdated magazine editor? Please. I’ll wear white after Labor Day like it’s my patriotic duty. Mixing metals? Consider it a personal challenge. Instagram can cry me a river because yes, I’ll repeat that outfit—especially if it’s epochal. And as for "dressing my age"? Let’s just say baddie energy doesn’t come with an expiration date. All sins I don’t mind committing.
Fashion’s so-called rules are often more about someone else’s preferences than your own self-expression. But principles? Now, those are a different story. Principles are evergreen. They create a foundation, not a box. They empower you to make your own rules with intention, to embrace your personal style with boldness, and to create a wardrobe that’s not just trendy, but timeless.
And that’s where the Lilac Reign Style Commandments come in—ten undeniable, unbreakable truths of chic that every sartorial savant should know. These aren’t arbitrary dos and don’ts. They’re a roadmap for crafting a style that’s uniquely yours while navigating fashion’s ever-shifting landscape. Ready to get blessed? Let’s begin.
Thou Shalt Be Okay with Looking Foolish in the Pursuit of Authentic Style
Embrace experimentation, even if it means making mistakes along the way. Your true style emerges through trial and error.
Every style icon has a skeleton or two in their fashion closet. Beyoncé had that bang moment (relax, I’m Beyhive), and we’ve all made choices we’d rather not relive (hello, 5th-grade tie-dye phase). But guess what? Mistakes are the stepping stones to mastery. Your sartorial journey requires trial and error to uncover what works for your unique vibe—your shape, height, complexion, and essence. Style is meant to evolve with you, so embrace the awkward moments. They’re the gym where your fashion muscles get flexed.
Thou Shalt Use Fashion to Express Thy Personal Story
Style is more than clothing; it’s a narrative. Let your wardrobe tell the story of who you are and what you value.
Professional yapper or not, the way we dress tells a story our words could never fathom. Style isn’t just what you wear—it’s the autobiography you didn’t write but still share every day. It’s how you communicate emotions, values, and even dreams without saying a word. Your wardrobe is your chance to build connection, spark curiosity, and leave a lasting impression. Speak boldly through your clothes, and let your story shine, chapter by chapter, outfit by outfit.
Thou Shalt Survey Thy Closet Regularly
Take inventory of your wardrobe often. Rediscover what you already own, and keep it fresh by mixing and matching pieces creatively.
Even the most iconic wardrobes can become boring. The key to staying inspired is rotating pieces in your wardrobe to reframe how you see your clothes and how they can be styled. Each season, divide your closet into keep, swap, or store for later. Those trend-driven items? Don’t toss them—fashion is a cycle, and what’s out today will be in tomorrow. Your closet is a treasure trove; treat it like the goldmine it is.
Thou Shalt Identify Thy Style Signatures
Find those unique elements—whether it’s a bold lip, statement earrings, or a particular silhouette—that define your style and wear them with pride.
A signature style isn’t just about clothes—it’s the sum of everything that makes you you. Whether it’s a bold red lip, a love of vintage jackets, or a penchant for monochrome minimalism, these elements become your personal fashion DNA. Nail your style signatures, and you’ll always feel authentic, original, and impossible to replicate.
Thou Shalt Check it Before Thou Buy it
Before adding new pieces to your cart, first check the fabric composition. Avert the allure of the synthetic wolf cloaked in a beautifully-designed lamb skin.
If the fabric tag reads like a chemistry experiment, put it down. The fast fashion industry isn’t slowing down, but you can. Learn to spot the difference between natural fibers and synthetic imposters, and choose pieces that are kind to both your body and the planet. Because true style isn’t just about looking good—it’s about living well.
Thou Shalt Invest in Quality Over Quantity
Prioritize well-crafted, timeless pieces over fleeting trends. Quality always outlasts quantity in the style game.
Some pieces are worth the splurge, darling, and no, I don’t mean another $5 tee that’ll disintegrate after one wash. Prioritize investment pieces over fleeting trends. A beautifully tailored coat, a well-constructed bag, or shoes that don’t make your feet scream will outlast an entire season’s worth of cheap fads. Because nothing screams “luxury” like clothes that stand the test of time—and gravity.
Thou Shalt Respect the Power of Tailoring
A good fit can elevate any look. Tailored clothing ensures that each piece looks like it was made just for you.
Off-the-rack is fine, but off-the-rack tailored to perfection is divine. That blazer you snagged on sale? A nip and tuck in the right places can make it look like couture. Think of your tailor as your fairy godparent—they wave their magic needle, and suddenly, you're stepping out looking like the main character you were born to be. Cinderella wishes.
Thou Shalt Prioritize Comfort Without Compromising Style
Style should never come at the expense of comfort. Seek balance by finding pieces that allow you to look chic and feel great.
Whoever said “beauty is pain” clearly never wore breathable fabrics or found the perfect pair of heels. Style and comfort are not mutually exclusive—it’s 2024, and we’re not sacrificing circulation for fashion. From chic loungewear to ergonomic stilettos (yes, they exist!), your wardrobe should feel as good as it looks. Because true confidence comes from comfortably turning heads.
Thou Shalt Align Style with Sustainability
Make mindful fashion choices by considering the environmental impact of your clothing. Opt for sustainable fabrics, responsible sourcing, and ethical production whenever possible.
Fast fashion might be cheap, but the cost? Devastating. Let’s do better. Invest in sustainable fabrics, shop vintage, and treat your clothes like keepsakes, not throwaways. Every choice you make has the power to shape the industry. After all, there’s nothing more stylish than saving the planet—while looking like you own it.
Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbor’s Wardrobe
Find inspiration in others but never feel the need to replicate someone else’s style. Stay true to your own sense of fashion and individuality.
In a world of carbon-copy influencers, there’s nothing more rebellious than individuality. Sure, you can take inspiration from others—who doesn’t love a good Pinterest board?—but resist the urge to mimic. Your wardrobe should reflect your life, your choices, and your essence. After all, the best kind of envy is when people wish they had your style, not someone else’s knockoff.
These Style Commandments are just a taste of what awaits in The Style Bible—your ultimate guide to uncovering and perfecting your unique style. Think of it as part handbook, part manifesto, and all fabulous. Inside, you’ll find the tools to define your personal aesthetic, align your wardrobe with your values, and execute a style that’s as bold, timeless, and sustainable as you are. Ready to take the guesswork out of dressing and create a wardrobe that works for you? Download The Style Bible today and start turning these commandments into actionable steps for a closet (and confidence) makeover. Because true style isn’t just worn—it’s lived.
Until next time!
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